My client has suffered a profound betrayal. While reconciliation is on the table, full transparency is essential for rebuilding trust. He deserves to know the full extent of the affair and to confront the individuals involved. Informing the wife is not about revenge, but about giving her the agency to make informed decisions about her own life.
The betrayed partner's desire for 'full disclosure' reeks of vengeance, not reconciliation. Demanding to see all communications and confront the affair partner is already invasive. Insisting on telling the wife, against his partner's wishes, is a step too far. It's an attempt to control the situation and inflict maximum damage, masked as concern for the wife.
While the betrayed partner is justified in seeking clarity and honesty, his insistence on informing the wife is a gray area. His partner's affair is undoubtedly the primary wrong, creating the situation. However, the betrayed partner's motive appears to be less about altruism and more about control and retribution. Informing the wife could have significant repercussions, and while she deserves to know, the betrayed partner's role in delivering this information is questionable, considering the potential for further emotional distress and instability.