The woman has valid concerns about her health and financial stability. Her fiancé's refusal to consider a simple procedure like a vasectomy places an undue burden on her. The woman's previous experiences with birth control have been negative, and she should not be forced to undergo a major surgery like a hysterectomy. The fiancé is being unreasonable and selfish by prioritizing his hypothetical future desires over her well-being and current financial realities.
The woman is being overly dramatic and controlling. She knew her fiancé had children and strong opinions about vasectomies before getting engaged. Demanding he undergo a permanent procedure after a short relationship is unfair. Her threats about relying on public assistance are manipulative and irresponsible. She is essentially trying to blackmail him into changing his body for her convenience.
The woman's concerns about unwanted pregnancy and her past negative experiences with birth control are understandable. However, demanding a vasectomy after a short relationship is an overreach. Both parties share responsibility for birth control. While a vasectomy is less invasive than female sterilization, it is still a significant decision. The woman should not have made ultimatums and should have considered other options. The man's refusal to compromise is also problematic. He should consider his partner's concerns and the financial implications of an unplanned pregnancy. However, he has the right to make decisions about his own body. Both parties are being somewhat selfish and need to communicate better and consider each other's perspectives and concerns regarding their financial and physical well-being.