The birthday celebrant was merely expressing a minor annoyance at a friend's parenting choice. It was the birthday celebrant's special day, and the candles are a symbolic part of the celebration. While the friend's intentions were likely good, relighting the candles shifted the focus away from the birthday person. The celebrant is entitled to feel slightly put out by this alteration to their birthday ritual. Therefore, the friend should have considered the birthday person's feelings more carefully.
The birthday celebrant is displaying a distinct lack of empathy and understanding. A three-year-old's desires are simple, and the friend was trying to include the child and create a positive experience. The celebrant's annoyance reveals a selfish desire to be the sole center of attention, even at their own birthday dinner with friends. The disruption was minimal, and the celebrant's reaction is disproportionately self-centered. The celebrant should try to be more understanding and less focused on their own desires.
While it is understandable that the birthday celebrant felt a twinge of annoyance, the friend's actions were a well-intentioned effort to include a young child and create a happy moment. The situation did not cause significant harm or disruption. The birthday celebrant needs to recognize the importance of flexibility and generosity in social situations. Therefore, the celebrant’s focus on a minor deviation from their birthday expectations is unwarranted.